me from the intervention of a friend or a spouse who finally helps someone see just how dysfunctional he or she actually has become. But once the person has gotten into the actual course, and they vary from agency to agency, what is actually said and done to help people with their ire issues?
The place to really start this whole discussion might be to try and nail down exactly what ire is. One definition says it is an emotional state that may range from mild irritation to intense rage. Another definition says resentment or ire is a strong passion of displeasure at a real or supposed injury or insult. Perhaps the most thought provoking definition of anger was unfulfilled expectations. Antagonism or rage isn't always a bad thing, in fact the emotion can spur people who channel it correctly into accomplishing some pretty cool things for society, and there is what the Bible refers to as righteous indignation demonstrated when Jesus became infuriated on several occasions with self righteous clergy and with profiteers in the temple. But in too many cases, anger is just spewing venom or striking out indiscriminately at innocent or perhaps well meaning person and then the emotion becomes a problem for more than the person doing the venting and anger stress management is appropriate.
Psychotherapy with its reliance on cognitive-behavioral counseling has been the mainstay of anger stress management programs across the country for many decades. It is a method of counseling that is based on the idea that thoughts cause one's feelings and behaviors to be created. In other words, anger comes from what we are thinking rather than being caused by what other people do, or circumstances that happen to us. Psychotherapy depends on the give and take of the counselor and client as the therapist attempts to help reveal the client's flawed thinking that brings about destructive behavior. It is in a very large sense a therapy that asks the person to take responsibility for his or her actions rather than blaming outside forces for behavior. In the same way, god asks each human to take responsibility for his sin and seek a solution for that sin. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him should not perish but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)
Anger stress management can take a one on one form with a psychotherapist, or that therapist may lead a group of people seeking help with resentment issues. The setting of a group can provide powerful feedback and the ability to see oneself in the lives of others. This is why the group therapy approach is often one of the most widely used approaches by counselors who are responsible for helping individuals who need anger stress management. Some people do not respond well in a group setting where sharing one's weaknesses is a required activity. For others, the group setting is much more productive than going one on one with a personal therapist. In many ways, the group setting can set a much more confrontational approach, with peers calling members to a high rate of accountability.
In some cases, because of destructive behavior, a court will order a person to take anger stress management classes. This is typically in a classroom setting with lectures by various speakers or just one teacher and a limited opportunity for group interaction. There may be a workbook that serves as the "textbook" for the course, often with fill in the blank sentences so that the participant must listen carefully to what is being said. Successful completion of a class is often the requirement of the court in order for the offender to receive a lighter or suspended sentence for something that occurred because of uncontrolled anger. The success of any therapy or a class that is meant to change years of thinking or ingrained behavior is contingent on the motivation of the participant. Self-awareness must be a part of a participant's energy when going into such a program because others cannot make the changes for the one who has dysfunctional behavior. A desire to want to change motivated by a love for the people that have been hurt by the misplaced anger has to be the key ingredient in such a program.
The place to really start this whole discussion might be to try and nail down exactly what ire is. One definition says it is an emotional state that may range from mild irritation to intense rage. Another definition says resentment or ire is a strong passion of displeasure at a real or supposed injury or insult. Perhaps the most thought provoking definition of anger was unfulfilled expectations. Antagonism or rage isn't always a bad thing, in fact the emotion can spur people who channel it correctly into accomplishing some pretty cool things for society, and there is what the Bible refers to as righteous indignation demonstrated when Jesus became infuriated on several occasions with self righteous clergy and with profiteers in the temple. But in too many cases, anger is just spewing venom or striking out indiscriminately at innocent or perhaps well meaning person and then the emotion becomes a problem for more than the person doing the venting and anger stress management is appropriate.
Psychotherapy with its reliance on cognitive-behavioral counseling has been the mainstay of anger stress management programs across the country for many decades. It is a method of counseling that is based on the idea that thoughts cause one's feelings and behaviors to be created. In other words, anger comes from what we are thinking rather than being caused by what other people do, or circumstances that happen to us. Psychotherapy depends on the give and take of the counselor and client as the therapist attempts to help reveal the client's flawed thinking that brings about destructive behavior. It is in a very large sense a therapy that asks the person to take responsibility for his or her actions rather than blaming outside forces for behavior. In the same way, god asks each human to take responsibility for his sin and seek a solution for that sin. "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him should not perish but have everlasting life." (John 3:16)
Anger stress management can take a one on one form with a psychotherapist, or that therapist may lead a group of people seeking help with resentment issues. The setting of a group can provide powerful feedback and the ability to see oneself in the lives of others. This is why the group therapy approach is often one of the most widely used approaches by counselors who are responsible for helping individuals who need anger stress management. Some people do not respond well in a group setting where sharing one's weaknesses is a required activity. For others, the group setting is much more productive than going one on one with a personal therapist. In many ways, the group setting can set a much more confrontational approach, with peers calling members to a high rate of accountability.
In some cases, because of destructive behavior, a court will order a person to take anger stress management classes. This is typically in a classroom setting with lectures by various speakers or just one teacher and a limited opportunity for group interaction. There may be a workbook that serves as the "textbook" for the course, often with fill in the blank sentences so that the participant must listen carefully to what is being said. Successful completion of a class is often the requirement of the court in order for the offender to receive a lighter or suspended sentence for something that occurred because of uncontrolled anger. The success of any therapy or a class that is meant to change years of thinking or ingrained behavior is contingent on the motivation of the participant. Self-awareness must be a part of a participant's energy when going into such a program because others cannot make the changes for the one who has dysfunctional behavior. A desire to want to change motivated by a love for the people that have been hurt by the misplaced anger has to be the key ingredient in such a program.
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